I Didn’t Know What I Had, Until I Lost It

Far from valuing the experiences we live or the people who love us, sometimes we fall into the comfort of taking everything for granted. Let’s reflect on it.

I was blind to reality. I didn’t know what I had, but this all changed when I lost you. It was then that a slap of reality made me see what I had let slip, what I did not know how to value and left …

Do you identify with this situation? Realizing that there was someone special next to you who you paid little attention to or didn’t take enough care of?

If so, you might be interested in thinking about these questions. Here are some things worth considering. Keep reading!

I didn’t know what I had and that’s why I lost it

In reality, when we do not value someone, we know that sooner or later they will go away. The problem is that, when that person leaves, we often realize what we have lost, the emptiness that we feel then.

But it is too late and perhaps we will not regain that relationship that, at the time, we neglected or even damaged.

Why is this happening? What are we thinking to ‘believe’ that this friend or partner will always be with us?

For example, when we are in a couple, we try to be available for the other, to show our own interest in sharing experiences together. With this, the bond becomes stronger and mutual trust grows.

However, difficulties appear when the lack of involvement becomes evident, when we begin to think that we have already done everything. ..

But circumstances can change at any moment. What if we consider the possibility that that person gets tired and decides to move away permanently?

Maybe there is no going back

When someone we have not valued leaves, we are likely to try to back down. But it’s too late! That which we had not foreseen, those details that we neglect then immerse us in emotions such as sadness or frustration.

However, it can also happen that that person gives us a second chance. If so, that is just the time to acknowledge that we have been wrong, to accept the mistakes we made and express the discomfort we feel for them.

If we are lucky that someone returns, what better way than to start the journey from scratch? Of course, with our feet on the ground and being aware of those failures in which we fell.

We will remember them to know how to orient ourselves from now on, although without punishing ourselves all the time or drowning in continuous guilt. We are fortunate to have that company and we are going to try to keep it.

Uncertainty will remain constantly present. But if we try to overcome those old potholes and show the other the love we have for them, we will be in a better position to give a different direction to the history of that relationship.

When appreciation is not enough

Sometimes ties are broken for other reasons. The regret of ‘until I lost it’ does not fit a landscape that has changed for external reasons.

Beyond the appreciation that we have transmitted to the other, there are various conditions that lead to a separation.

Thus, it may happen that the lifestyles of both have varied significantly or that one of the two wants to start different projects alone.

The combinations of variables are multiple and do not always respond to a lack of esteem or attention to the other.

In any case, all goodbye will be painful. We will only have to accept our own feelings with patience, give them their space and move on. Little by little we will make room for other people, as well as new experiences that will awaken other illusions.

What happened until I lost it?

Have you lost someone? Have you realized what you had once that person decided to walk away?

If so, perhaps reviewing what we did or did not do will help us to detect our own mistakes.

Making mistakes is human, but so is learning, asking for forgiveness and trying to get back those we love.

If we look around and begin to appreciate those who are there, it will not be necessary to wait for ‘tomorrow’ so that, suddenly, they leave.