Help Your Child To Achieve His Goals

Why is it important to help your child achieve his goals? Being a parent involves more than feeding or providing shelter for your children. The true objective of parents is to provide what is necessary for the child so that it can be self-sufficient, make good decisions and reach fulfillment.

However, sometimes we forget that children will grow up and live their own lives. It is important to note that they will be the very engine that drives them to achieve their goals despite the circumstances of life.

Obviously, we want to see you excited, happy and satisfied. If that is the case for you, it is important that you consider how to help your child achieve his goals.

How to help your child achieve his goals?

Educating children includes teaching them to define what they want to be and the means by which they can achieve their goals. It is the parents’ responsibility to teach them to plan their future. For this, they must be allowed to become aware of themselves, their abilities, the difficulties or possibilities when building their own life project.

The life project is an approach and a search that is developed in order to solve the human needs of a person in the future. This includes aspects such as quality of life, education, family, couple, professional development, religion, political position, etc.

Carrying out the life project at a very early age can be very complex, since identity and personality are not yet well defined.

However, in these lines we focus on two very important aspects that will help the little ones to make important decisions in the future: perseverance and effort.

Teach him the value of effort

According to the specialist Mª Consolación Calderón Spain in her article “The education of perseverance: fundamental value in the formation of the person”,  the creation of habits begins from childhood.

Likewise, the author cites an excerpt from the Treatise on female education, by San Jerónimo, in which she says of the person: “Make sure that they take a liking for what the force to recite is so that it is not work but pleasure, not necessity but will ” . In other words:  it takes effort to reach goals, but it must be done for enjoyment and not out of obligation.

Effort is being aware that, in order to achieve a goal, it is necessary to work hard continuously . If we don’t make an effort, we will seldom achieve any purpose. However, it is necessary to have a clear motive, enthusiasm and willpower so as not to get lost along the way.

How can you help your child to achieve his goals through effort?

First of all, it is vital to allow you to develop your own will and self-knowledge. In this way, you can commit to the goals you set for yourself. Also, it will be easier to work with him in this regard.

Another important step is to define goals according to your age and ability, both in the short and medium term. These measures will serve so that the little one knows the satisfaction “delayed” and not only the instantaneous. However, both must be related to effort.

You must also teach him with discipline. By this we do not mean that you are authoritarian and inflexible. You simply have to be firm and demand that they fulfill what they have previously promised. In this way, your child will develop self-determination to achieve any goal. On the other hand, you will not get used to a comfortable life without compromises.

Constancy

Constancy is the virtue that allows you to act with perseverance in decisions, actions or purposes despite difficulties. A person who is determined acts with determination, combats fear, frustration and discouragement. For this reason, consistency is one of the best attitudes to help your child achieve their goals.

“If you add a little to a little and do it often,
it will soon become a lot.”

-Hesiodo-

How to teach constancy?

One of the most important points in developing consistency is patience. Without it, your child may despair at not getting results right away, or even get frustrated. So  show him that he can achieve his goals if he goes piecemeal, step by step, as Hesiod claimed.

Another way you can help your child is by proposing to practice a sport or activity that requires consistency. He himself will see that if he trains and practices he can improve his performance progressively.

In addition, it is important to encourage him and not allow him to give up in the face of difficulties. You can also reinforce his behavior by celebrating his small advances with him. Both actions have a lot of value.

Ultimately, your guide and example are very important to help your child achieve their goals. Give him the opportunity to feel satisfaction for his effort and perseverance will serve as a stimulus. In this way, you will teach him a model to continue overcoming challenges throughout his life.